So I have had my share of roommates and I would say I am a pretty tolerant roommate. BUT, I have these 2 roommates right now that are driving me CRAZY and making me pretty uncomfortable. These 2 roommates never do their dishes or take out the trash. NEVER! They never clean up after themselves. Our kitchen is constantly a mess and I (or my other roommate Teri) have to clean it up frequently. Most of the time I have to clean the kitchen before I can do anything in it, even making a sandwich.
Not only are these 2 roommates messy, they have boys over ALL the time. Which whatever, they have social lives, GREAT! However these boys sleep over and use our showers and walk around half naked. Which makes me pretty uncomfortable that there are half naked boys walking around. I know they are doing things behind closed doors because we have heard them, which is just gross. I don't want to know what you are doing behind closed doors, just saying.
This last week they have done something that they have never done. I opened my freezer to get some of my ice cream and inside was a very LARGE bottle of Vodka in my freezer! I was shocked! I could not believe that not only were they having sex in my apartment, they were drinking too. The Vodka disappeared an hour later when they went to a party but it reappeared a couple days later in out living room. It was on our coffee table 3/4 gone. I just don't know what to do!
I mean we are all adults and we all have free agency. However, we live in BYU approved housing. None of us are BYU students but it is still BYU housing. It makes me uncomfortable that all of this is happening in my home. I don't even really want to be home if I know they are going to be there. I feel like I should do something but at the same time they are moving out, plus I am not a tattle tale (spelling? lol). They said really soon but I learned last night that they have not sold their contracts yet. So now I don't know what to do.
So I am asking for HELP!!!!! Please give me advice on what to do.
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Brittni!! I am so sad this is happening to you. I've had some bad roommates but definitely none to this extreme. However, I do have a friend that was in a similar situation, and I think that at some point (now, lol) it's ok to let the important people know about it. It's your apartment, too, and you should feel safe in your own home!! Talk to the BYU Housing Office. Your complex can lose their BYU Approved status if they do nothing to help or get those girls out. I am unsure why they chose to live in BYU Housing... there's plenty of other places they can go, haha. But I think you should take a stand; you've done nothing wrong! I say call BYU Housing ASAP.
Hope this helps.. and hope things work out! =)
- Hilary
First, confront them about it. Just don't use the word "you" alot. Then it would feel like you are accusing them of something, then they'll get defensive. I mean, it's hard not to use that word, and you are accusing them, but let them know, say, "I'm not really comfortable living with alcohol in the apartment and having boys sleep over. I am an active LDS member, and I never agreed to live with boys, not until after I'm married. By signing the contract, you have also agreed to the same living conditions I have, at least until you move out. Also, I am not anyone's parent, so I shouldn't feel like I have to clean up after anyone but myself. So would you mind making sure you clean up after yourselves and do your own dishes? I don't feel like I should have to do a thorough cleaning of the kitchen, when I just want a bowl of cereal or a sandwich. I have respect for you, so please, have respect for me."
I'm so sorry you are dealing with roommate issues. I have had some issues with my roommate as well, and I wrote her a note on facebook, because we never saw each other during the week. So you can also write them a letter, if that makes you feel more comfortable. I would also save that letter, in case they don't respect your wishes, then you should take it to your management, because they are definitely NOT following the rules of the contract they signed, but just to give them the benefit of the doubt, talk to them first, then go higher up later, if you have to. If they didn't think they could live by BYU standards, they could have found an apartment to live in by themselves that isn't BYU approved.
You can always come hang out with me, if you never feel like wanting to go home. I'm usually home at night, Mondays through Wednesdays. But we definitely need to go to a movie or something soon. :) Love ya, girlie!
Hey Girl! Sorry you're having trouble with your roommates! :( No fun. I've been through that too and it's awful. If you ever need to escape from your apartment you're more then welcome to come down to 119 any time! Someone is almost always here and we'd be more than happy to hang out or let you do homework or anything you need! Really stop by whenever!
:( I know I'm really no one to you, just a somewhat distant co-worker, but it makes me sad that you have to deal with this.
When I was in college I lived in a set up with two other girls. We each had our own bedroom/bathroom, but shared the common areas and our laundry room. It was a hassle to get the others to clean up dishes or simply take their clothes out of the dryer (not even immediately, just a day or so after). We sat down and had a discussion about it. Things were smoother after that.
We lived off campus and both of the girls I lived with were not Christian (they would claim that, but they'd only set foot in church for weddings). I know I was at fault for some things, but it was a tough few years.
I live a little too far away for you to just stop by, but you are more than welcome anytime to message me or email me. :)
I hope things get better.
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